Overcoming rejection and finding unconditional acceptance in Jesus Christ.
“But Zion said, “The LORD has forsaken me; the Lord has forgotten me! Can a woman forget her nursing child, or lack compassion for the son of her womb? Even if she could forget, I will not forget you! Behold, I have inscribed you on the palms of My hands; your walls are ever before Me.…” Isaiah 49:14-16 NIV.
Everyone has experienced the pain of rejection. Maybe you were a child when your dad left home or your mom suffered depression. Maybe your first love abandoned you and ended up dating your best friend, maybe you felt rejected when your partner didn’t like the present you bought for them after spending a huge chunk of money and time shopping for it.
Do you feel that you don’t belong and no one really cares? Perhaps you are a loner who feels like you don’t really need people, and you prefer it that way. If this is your story, you are most likely a victim of rejection. Webster defines rejection as a “refusal to accept, receive, hear or consider important”. Rejection is a self-defeating feeling of hopelessness that emanates from damages occurring during the early years of life. Experiences in later years compound and/or trigger the damage caused in childhood during the formative years.
Children experience parental treatment differently based on individual temperaments. A child’s mind will color the outlook of every circumstance in life. Some children can easily forget an injustice or survive abuse while some are devastated and struggle to recover from it. In either circumstance the unique individual experiences and accompanying feelings are valid.
People who experienced rejection as children sabotage their adult relationships and end up feeling lonely, isolated and scared. The wounded individual usually pulls someone close, overshares, fears connection or rejection, and then pushes the other person away. This kind of interaction is not only exhausting but also confusing to everyone involved. The individual yearns for a deep connection to others just like they desired to have with their parents. But when others come close, they push them away because they don’t know what to do with the feeling of connection.
Those who experienced rejection during the early years don’t have the foundation for emotional connection typically established within the childhood family. God has designed that there are certain tasks to be accomplished early in the development of the human body and mind. Bonding with parents takes place in the first two to four hours of life. If this does not happen, the baby is deprived of the experience necessary to bond with parents in the way God originally designed.
Regardless of the depth of pain you may feel, the despair over lost relationships and an inability to feel accepted by earthly parents or your Heavenly father, God offers you unconditional love, hope and a path to recovery. He promises to restore unto you the years that the locust has eaten whether in ignorance or rebellion. He implores you to cast your burdens unto Him for He cares for you. Are you willing to do that today?
Let’s pray:
“Lord, I pray through the power of your Holy Spirit, that you will heal me from rejection that took place in my life. I know that you as my Heavenly Father will never reject or abandon me. Through your son Jesus I am accepted, loved, valued, and upheld. Thank you Lord that you never cast me aside or push me down. You accept me just the way I am. I do not have to be perfect to be loved by you. Speak to me through your Word, and remind me how much you deeply care for me. Reassure me that you will never leave or forsake me, and that you can always be trusted.Renew my mind by the power of your Word. This root of rejection will no longer have power over me in form of anger, bitterness, perfectionism, or despair. It is overcome by the blood of Jesus Christ and the word of my testimony. I pray believing and trusting in the ever living name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.”
“I took you from the ends of the earth, from its farthest corners I called you. I said, ‘You are my servant’; I have chosen you and have not rejected you. So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.Isaiah 41:9-10 NIV.
Dr Rose Kwamboka Misati
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